The medicine of Ecstatic BDSM

Every animal in the spirit world has its own medicine, those qualities that make it unique. The same is true of the acts we employ in Ecstatic BDSM.

This evolving table explores the medicine of each of the major practices I offer and participate in. I welcome input and suggestions; if they resonate, I will include them in this table as it evolves. Where a suggestion has come from someone else, I have mentioned their name in brackets.

The ActThe InvitationThe MedicineWhat it's powerful for
Erotic surrender"Let me take you"Receptivity, surrender of control* Letting go of fear
* Welcoming the unknown
* Permission for pleasure
Flogging, thick canes"Let me shake the dust out"Catharsis, personal power* Processing grief
* Releasing stuck energy
* Expanding beyond our 'false ceiling'
* Shamanic journeying
Dogtailing (singletail), whippy canes"Let me take you on a journey"Expansion, flight* That 'soaring' feeling
* Shamanic journeying
Rat-tailing (singletail)"Let me crack you open"Catharsis, expansion, flight* Releasing what's stuck
* Profound surrender
* Flying really high
Rope bondage"Let me wrap you up"Being held * Welcoming surrender
* Feeling held and loved
* Releasing something that binds us (Rebecca Lowrie)
Fire"Let me set you alight"Burning away, igniting* Releasing old habits and patterns
* Rites of passage (Vena Ramphal)
* Turning up the heat on something (Rebecca Lowrie)
Non consent play"Don't let me"Facing the tyrant* Releasing fear and anger
* Transforming guilt about sex and pleasure
* Finding your NO and giving it a voice in a held container (Rebecca Lowrie)
Play piercing / hook pull"Let me create an opening"Opening, breaking through* Releasing the old and welcoming the new
* Opening the heart
* Creating intentional portals (Rebecca Lowrie)
* Shamanic journeying
Suspension"Let me take you up"Letting go, surrender* Letting go
* Stepping into surrender
* Change and transformation
* Rite of passage
Cutting & branding"Let me get under your skin"Expansion, merging with All That Is* Releasing pain and grief that is trapped 'under the skin'
* Marking the creation of something new or a new phase
* Permanent marks as a reminder of your Soul commitment
Fisting (phil_z)"Let me fill you up"Surrender, expansion* Releasing tension
* Welcoming more love in

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12 comments


  • I love this.

    I love it even more that you made a chart :)

    April 08, 2012
  • Also, can I ask how you made the chart sortable?

    April 08, 2012
  • Hi Lily, I use a plugin called WP-Table Reloaded, which has a bunch of great options for tables: including making them sortable, alternating the colours of each row and search. I highly recommend it.

    April 08, 2012
  • Sarah

    Wow faerie this is brilliant stuff – what great idea display the medicines in this way xxxxx

    April 08, 2012
  • Kase

    Brilliant :) .. Thanks for sharing. Love the chart. ~s~

    April 09, 2012
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    April 09, 2012
  • This is beautiful Faerie. Well thought out and very useful. Wonderful contribution your making out there to the world of shamanic / ecstatic BDSM. I’m impressed :) x

    April 09, 2012
  • Belle

    It’s fascinating seeing it all laid out like this. It makes huge sense. Don’t forget to add clothes pegs/zipper. :)

    April 10, 2012
  • phil_z

    Love this too! My personal favourite – “fisting”; through touch alone without breaking eye contact. “Let me fill you up.” Release and open yourself to love…

    April 10, 2012
  • Anna

    Thank you for this, London Faerie. Your timing is perfect. I relate to all but can especially vouch for the last one: it’s true, she totally got under my skin and the reminder stays with me even though she’s no longer here. I’ve worn her scar for 10 years but she recently died and now my heart is scarred too. And it still burns.

    April 10, 2012
  • I’ll add another BRILLIANT!!! to the mix. You inspire me Sweet Man. I have to link to this.

    Much love from the left coast across the pond.

    L~o

    April 11, 2012
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