Names and labels: “Shamanic BDSM”

Shamanic BDSM with London Faerie

Over the last couple of years I’ve tried a few different names for the BDSM that I do – Sacred Kink, Conscious Kink, Tantric BDSM – but none of [...] Continue . . . → Read More: Names and labels: “Shamanic BDSM”

Thank you, beautiful mind, but there’s an easier way

Things have been moving this way for a while now. Over the last 20 months since I opened the doors of Sacred Pleasures, I’ve learnt to trust my intuition [...] Continue . . . → Read More: Thank you, beautiful mind, but there’s an easier way

What grown-ups do // the dynamics of dogma 2

This morning I had a useful and interesting chat with my friend and colleague Claire Black. We were talking about the way people often gets stuck trying to find [...] Continue . . . → Read More: What grown-ups do // the dynamics of dogma 2

Accepting difference // the dynamics of dogma 1

Is it OK to refuse to change when your way of doing something is ineffective? Can “Don’t show me a better way” ever be a valid statement? I’ve been grappling with [...] Continue . . . → Read More: Accepting difference // the dynamics of dogma 1

Romance without illusion // the ultimate true love?

This week my regular cleaner D____ was poorly, so the company sent a replacement: S____. She was a very cute young Bulgarian, and unlike D____ (who’s beautiful but rather [...] Continue . . . → Read More: Romance without illusion // the ultimate true love?

Going dark for Christmas

This evening Claire will have her last session at The Pot before we go dark for Christmas. In this context ‘dark’ is a term borrowed from theatre, where it’s [...] Continue . . . → Read More: Going dark for Christmas

Intentional Magic

Around the time I started Sacred Pleasures, I wrote a post called The Mathematics of Magic in which I laid out a simple formula for my idea of ‘magic’: INCREASED ENERGY [...] Continue . . . → Read More: Intentional Magic