London Faerie

Why “Shamanic” BDSM?

London Faerie — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 00:45:38 +0000

Over the last couple of years I’ve tried a few different names for the BDSM that I do – Sacred Kink, Conscious Kink, Tantric BDSM – but none of them have felt quite right. Recently I’ve been exploring a new one, which I’m growing into and feeling more and more comfortable with: Shamanic BDSM.

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Thank you, beautiful mind, but there’s an easier way

London Faerie — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 00:37:06 +0000

Things have been moving this way for a while now. Over the last 20 months since I opened the doors of Sacred Pleasures, I’ve learnt to trust my intuition more and more; and recently I’ve been exploring how I can meet the world from that place.

This has been a big deal for me. . . . → Read More: Thank you, beautiful mind, but there’s an easier way

What grown-ups do // the dynamics of dogma 2

London Faerie — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:11:59 +0000

This morning I had a useful and interesting chat with my friend and colleague Claire Black. We were talking about the way people often gets stuck trying to find ‘the answer’ to a question. It started because I was asking a question, and Claire said “I don’t know what you want me to say.” . . . → Read More: What grown-ups do // the dynamics of dogma 2

Accepting difference // the dynamics of dogma 1

London Faerie — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 01:50:54 +0000

Is it OK to refuse to change when your way of doing something is ineffective? Can “Don’t show me a better way” ever be a valid statement?

I’ve been grappling with this a lot recently. On the one hand, I’m trying to move into a space of total acceptance, refusing dogma of any kind . . . → Read More: Accepting difference // the dynamics of dogma 1

Romance without illusion // the ultimate true love?

London Faerie — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 20:35:57 +0000

This week my regular cleaner D____ was poorly, so the company sent a replacement: S____. She was a very cute young Bulgarian, and unlike D____ (who’s beautiful but rather grumpy), she was eager to chat. She’d only been working as a cleaner for a month, having spent the previous 4 years picking tomatoes in . . . → Read More: Romance without illusion // the ultimate true love?

Going dark for Christmas

London Faerie — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 17:48:18 +0000

This evening Claire will have her last session at The Pot before we go dark for Christmas. In this context ‘dark’ is a term borrowed from theatre, where it’s used to describe a theatre space not in use: as in “The Broadway Theatre is dark on Mondays”.

Image by Jon Topper

For me . . . → Read More: Going dark for Christmas

Intentional Magic

London Faerie — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 16:28:54 +0000

Around the time I started Sacred Pleasures, I wrote a post called The Mathematics of Magic in which I laid out a simple formula for my idea of ‘magic’:

INCREASED ENERGY + FOCUSSED INTENTION = CHANGE IN THE WORLD

A year and a half on, I’ve had plenty of time . . . → Read More: Intentional Magic